Bila Nak Kahwin?

"Do not ask me when I'll get married.
Just pray that I'll be able to marry"

Meaning, we may plan when to marry, but we need to remember that only Allah is in charge of the conclusion of the day.
If He put our marriage on hold, do you think it still make sense to ask such question?

Self reminder

BAKTI

子游问孝。子曰。今之孝者、是谓能养。至于犬马、皆能有养。不敬、何以别乎

[ Zi You (seorang pengikut Konfucius) bertanya mengenai maskud bakti. Konfucius berkata, “Pada masa kini, bakti bermaksud mampu memberi makan kepada ibu bapamu. Namun begitu, kuda dan anjing juga dapat berbuat demikian. Tanpa hormat, apa bezanya (dengan haiwan)” ]

Petikan di atas dipetik daripada salah satu kitab Konfusianisme, iaitu Analek (论语), buku ke-2 ayat ke-7. 

Jikalau anda mampu memberi nafkah kepada ibu bapa, Alhamduliah. Semoga Allah melimpahkan rezeki berterusan kepada anda. Namun begitu, tiang bakti yang paling diperlukan sebenarnya adalah perbuatan hormat. Mengapa ya? 

Dewasa ini, sesiapa saja juga dapat memberi nafkah atau makan kepada kedua orang tua, namun pada masa yang sama, bersikap biadap terhadap mereka.

Difahami juga kadang kala apabila kedua ibu bapa kita mulai uzur, mereka juga ada kerenah tersendiri yang kadang kala membingungkan kita. Tetapi, itu bukan alasan bagi kita bertindak kasar ataupun mengasingkan diri daripada mereka.

Sebagai seorang revert yang kembali kepada Islam, hamba Allah ini juga perlu memastikan peringatan ini sentiasa dalam sanubari minda setiap masa. Ini adalah Jihad al-Nafs dalam memastikan akal sentiasa di sof hadapan apabila berhadapan dengan situasi bertentangan kehendak. Apabila ibu bapa membantah, memarahi, atau mempersoalkan Ibadahku, perkara pertama yang harus diingati adalah tidak meninggikan suara. 

Memang adalah naluri biasa untuk mempertahankan agama pilihanku, namun harus juga diingat, dengan izin Allah s.w.t, ibu bapa yang sama jugalah yang telah banyak bersabar menghadapi kerenah kita semasa kecil. Layakkah kita meninggikan suara kita jika dibandingkan dengan kesabaran bertahun-tahun mereka terhadap kita?

Hal ini juga ditekankan dengan mendalam dalam Islam dengan jelas, di mana Allah s.w.t. telah berfirman:

yang bermaksud:

Dan Tuhanmu telah perintahkan, supaya engkau tidak menyembah melainkan kepadaNya semata-mata, dan hendaklah engkau berbuat baik kepada ibu bapa. Jika salah seorang dari keduanya, atau kedua-duanya sekali, sampai kepada umur tua dalam jagaan dan peliharaanmu, maka janganlah engkau berkata kepada mereka (sebarang perkataan kasar) sekalipun perkataan "Ha", dan janganlah engkau menengking menyergah mereka, tetapi katakanlah kepada mereka perkataan yang mulia (yang bersopan santun).

 –Qur’an 17:23

( Terjemahan maksud dalam Bahasa Cina:

你的主曾下令说：你们应当只崇拜他，应当孝敬父母。如果他俩中的一人或者两人在你的堂上达到老迈，那末，你不要对他俩说：「呸！」不要喝斥他俩，你应当对他俩说有礼貌的话。

~ 古兰经17:23

Bayangkanlah, sekalipun ungkapan sependek “ha” pun dilarang oleh Allah s.w.t….

Nothing Is A Hassle Except For Giving Up

除了放弃以外, 啥也不麻烦!

Arabic & Hadith

“学汉语必学论语，学阿语必学圣训” -民族大学伊斯兰教老师

One of my most remembered statement when I joined Minzu University's Islamic class for first time (and last time too, unfortunately) in 2011. He was mentioning about the Arabic class in Beijing Foreign Studies University, whereby most of its students are local non-Muslim Chinese students.
The beauty of a language lies in its holy literature. And for Arabic, it is in Quran. For non-Muslim students studying Arabic language, they will also find it in the Prophet's sayings -the Hadith, too.

Restraining for Taqwa

Sometimes, Taqwa (consciousness towards Allah) is maintained not only through chanting His attributes and reciting Quran, but also through stopping ourselves from doing deeds that displeases Him, even if we are tempted to do it in order to comfort ourselves. 

Everytime you feel like doing it, then pause and ask yourself, does this comfort comes from His pleasure? 

This constant struggle, or Jihad ul-Nafs, such constant pullback from doing certain deeds that displease Him, inshaAllah, also helps to re-inforce and centralized the consciousness towards Allah in your heart, and in your life.

As a result, inshaAllah you'll be able to taste the sweetness of Eeman, a precious reward from Allah. This blessing will help you to stay on in the Clean Path.

What will you get after that?

A better and closer relationship with Allah, inshaAllah 

(A self reminder shared from a brother's personal experience)

Give Up Not

我啥也不怕, 只怕我们放弃
"I am not afraid of anything (that will harm us). I'm only afraid we would give up."

In any teamwork we do, be it love relationship, work, sports, or even defense war, we must continue to strive till the last energy, last breath, last drop of blood. 

This is because, no matter how heavy the trial is, even if there seem to be 'no light at the end of the tunnel', we have not been defeated actually. 

The ones that doesn't kill you, would only make you stronger. 

The real defeat is when we give up. 
And that is more heartbreaking than being defeated. 

As long as we keep our trust in Allah, He shall never abandon us in this mission. 

"Enough is Allah as our helper"
"There's no strength other than from Allah".


(originally posted in Facebook)

In Facebook

In Facebook, 
On one side, I see Muslim friends keep sharing politics stuffs. 
On the other side, I see Muslim friends keep sharing dakwah stuffs. 
Meanwhile, non-Muslim friends share just anything happening to them,
while then, they also share wisdom words,
in Facebook.